Mining Parenting

I think parenting is a lot like mining -- digging to find important elements of each child. However, once parents find the unique elements for each, there seems to be a tendency to only polish the ones that naturally seem shiny and sparkly and ignore the duller ones. In other words, what I'm tempted to do is focus only on the elements that naturally shine and sparkle and ignore the ones that seem dull, when really I need to balance opportunities to lift up more of their duller elements so as to help refine each personhood, leaving no stone unturned.